Sex SF

John Waters would love tonight's Que(e)ry party -- and more, from your week in sexy events

|
()

We've all seen the John Waters quote: “If you go home with somebody, and they don't have books, don't fuck 'em!” Baltimore's favorite trashy son, however, neglects to specify how to express your affection for their bok collection, and for good reason. The literary world supports a plethora of sexual proclivities -- all are welcome to find their sensual muses within the extraordinary range of love found in books.Read more »

Main Street's sex club: Eros celebrates 21 years in business

|
()

A few things that you may not know about Eros, the 21-year old sex club with the unassuming, rainbow-flagged façade that stands across the street from the Castro Safeway strip mall. One: it is hosting an art show on Thu/11 open to all to attend (perfect for female-identified folks interested in checking out the space, or at least the front room). Two, boundary-breaking trans-cis male porn is made there. Read more »

Kink.com beloved in Pope land! Local porn site among top downloaded in Vatican City [UPDATED]

|
()

A local anti-BDSM porn activist emailed me tidings of Flash magazine's Guatanamo-themed Coachella party this morning as proof that "Kink.com' s influence is spreading, albeit interrupted by the sex-negative Philistines of Coachella." Leaving aside the well-worth-it debate over the role art and nightlife have in political parody and the fact that torture in fact, existed well before Kink founder Peter Acworth (it wasn't called the "Kinkquisition," darling), I would say this is about 8,000 times more convincing proof that Kink.com is winning hearts and minds, should you need proof of such a thing.

According to Torrentfreak (and helpfully elaborated on by Fleshbot) the local BDSM site is responsible for two of the 13 most-pirated downloads in Vatican City. No, not top porn downloads, the most-pirated files, period.

Read more »

Standing on streetcorners naked, and this week's sexy events

|
()

Memories of a taxi driver desperately trying to flag Courtney Trouble into his cab popped up unexpectedly today upon hearing the BBW queer pornographer discuss how the Madonna-inspired Guardian cover shoot last year for my story following her and the rest of the queer porn clique down to Las Vegas for the AVN Awards has now inspired a movie of its own. Read more »

Hot sexy events: Nerd boobs, Bill Gates' condom quest, and the Sheagle = landed

|
()

Hey, dudes who don't like condoms, has Bill Gates got your back or what? During the same month that the Pope Emeritus reincarnates as a wall of condoms, the tech bajillionaire has donated the change he found in his couch ($100,000) to the Global Health research foundation Bill and wife Melinda founded through their foundation to developing a rubber that feels better on penises. Read more »

Hot sexy events: Getting (a?)head in the boardroom

|
()

I've been reading Facebook chief operating officer Sheryl Sandberg's new book Lean In recently, which despite its rather class-specific advice and observations is a really great look at why we don't have enough women in power positions. (Hint, sexism.)

Sandberg is great on suggesting ways to circumvent the internalized patriarchy that we carry around with us, but a workshop that is taking place this evening (Wed/20) hosted by BDSM educators Society of Janus and instructor Beatrice Stonebanks takes another tack. In "Corporate Dominatrix Training 101," attendees will learn how to harness sexual tension and turn it to an advantage in officeplace dealings. Read more »

Bone, on: Here's the week in sex events

|
()

Internet flame wars, naked people in Berkeley, fativism, shamrock-spangled stripper heels. Oh yep, that's this week in sex events. Read more »

How to get hot this week: sexy events

|
()

I was paging through my neon-orange-and-yellow copy of Tristan Taormino's Feminist Porn Book and generally feeling good about International Women's Day when I discovered that gah! I totally spaced and missed out on a really important porn happening that is sweeping the country: handsome wackjob Craig Gross' "Porn Kills" tour!

The comely Gross has been motoring about visiting the country's third tier cities in -- yes! -- a hearse, enlisting pro-Jesus spoken word poets and Christian video artists who love frosted flakes to spread the word that porn is threatening the collapse of our families. In a hip way, with skulls and stuff.

Read more »

Trouble down under: SF indie film banned in Australia

|
()

Cuddle porn, banned in Oz? The Australian Classification Board took exception with auteur Travis Mathews' tender look at life and love among gay men in San Francisco -- which included explicit sex scenes. Film fanatics at the Melbourne Queer Film Festival, Sydney's Queer Screen, and the Brisbane Queer Film Festival will be missing out on Mathew's work -- I Want Your Love was scheduled to screen at all three this year.

Look, James Franco is sad too. Read more »

More on what consent means for BDSM porn: A performer speaks out

|
()

Having sex for money can change the dimensions of the kinds of acts you're willing to explore. That's a fact in a porno landscape that rewards greater physical punishment with greater paychecks (as it should.) But if BDSM porn performers aren't doing it all purely for their own sexual gratification, how do we define consent? Where does pushing boundaries become abuse? The question seems really important, especially for those who would defend the existence of BDSM porn to dissenters of all stripes

My article in this week's paper that explored the question of the definition of consent for for-profit BDSM porn (although really, the arguments are the same for all kinds of sex work) was too short. Hey, save trees and all that. But performer Maxine Holloway pushed beyond the limited ink I could give to her comments to expand on her thoughts in an essay posted to her blog last night. Read more »